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Mid-Life and Looking for a Guy? Heres Help.
Are all the good ones married? Are men your age only
interested in women 20 years younger? Is it impossible to meet
men?
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Okay, although logic never convinces anyone of anything, lets
counter some of these silly ideas.
Yes, many good ones are married, but half of them will be
divorced sooner or later.
Some men are interested in women 20 years younger. It rarely
works out and some men have to learn this the hard way. You can
catch one when hes finally gotten a clue, if youre patient. My
friend Sheila did.
Is it impossible to meet men? Only if youre determined it is.
Hes looking for you just as hard as youre looking for him, but
hes not going to come knock at your door? I know men whove
called long-lost loves, sometimes after 40 years. A telephone or
email works fine and it can happen. If you heard the stories I
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I was in marketing for many years, and it occurred to me that
what you need is a marketing plan. If I were marketing an
apartment complex, heres what Id do: Interview the owner to
find out what her goals were. Check out the curb appeal. Find
out what the amenities were. Do a quick study of the
competition. Write up a marketing plan, applying the
fundamentals.
Now for the fun part lets apply this to you and your search
for Mr. Right.
WHAT YOU WANT?
What are you looking for in a man? Be specific. Make a list.
Actually write it down. When you know what you want, you attract
it. Write down the traits, qualities, values, appearance and so
forth.
CURB APPEAL
In the apartment industry, curb appeal means what the place
looks like when you first drive up. So do an honest assessment
of your curb appeal what do they see when they look at you?
Sometimes all you get is a first impression.
Do a makeover. If you need to, get a new hairstyle, get in top
shape, get your nails done, and take a look at your wardrobe.
Men fall in love with their eyes.
Work on your smile and your eye contact. A coach can give you
tips on this. You want your inner light to shine. This means you
must work on your attitude. Learn some optimism. It can be
learned and you dont need a reason. Not only will you feel
better, but youll be more attractive to other people.
THE AMENITIES
At an apartment complex, thats ceiling fans and hot tubs. For
you, take a look at what you bring to a relationship. Im not
talking about material things, Im talking about things that
really matter. Make a list of all your good qualities. Zero in
on two things that are unique to you and exceptional about you.
Keep these in mind and project them.
THERE IS NO COMPETITION
Keep in mind abundance theres someone for everyone, and the
goal is to find a good fit, in which case, it really isnt a
competition.
However, if youre a bit rusty, take a look around you when
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appeal is up-to-date.
Watch other women when theyre flirting; theres a style to that
as well. It will help you get in the zone to watch some women in
action. Brush up on your flirting skills. Smile. Catch his eye.
Work up some friendly opening lines to have handy.
THE PLAN
You know how they say multiple income streams? Well, youre
going to need multiple outgoing streams. Your plan is to meet
new people. The good thing about this is that youll collect
friends and adventures, maybe even clients or a new job whatever
else happens, so none of this is wasted.
Get out, attend, join and participate. If the doors are open,
and people will be there, YOU be there. Assuming that you work,
you have the noon hour, evenings and weekends.
Now here are some suggestions and do them ALL:
Join singles clubs and participate. Join and get active in a
faith organization Go to any event open to the public chamber
of commerce, fundraising, Fun Runs, political, galas. Join the
online dating services such as eharmony -
http://tinyurl.com/2lyea Let your friends and family know that
youd like some introductions to nice single men they know Be
open to possibilities when youre out at the mall, grocery, and
sporting goods store. Pay some visits Home Depot. Look like
youre lost, and if you see a cute guy, ask him about torque
wrenches. Visit art museums, go to the races and sports events.
Join some sports places. Word has it workout gyms are not a
good place to look (for either sex), but someone I know met a
great guy when she was taking SCUBA diving lessons. Volunteer!
And volunteer to do things that put you in a strategic location.
My favorites are staffing the nametag table and serving as
hostess or greeter. Everybody who enters must pass by me. Build
a house with Habitat for Humanity. Mid-life guys love manual
labor. Consider a goofy now-and-then job like doing the food
demos in the grocery store on Saturday afternoon.
Notwithstanding the silly hat, youll be in a prime position
to look em over and hook em in. Or stock books in a bookstore
one evening a week if you like guys who read. Take your dog
walking in different parks, especially Saturday mornings. Set
up a blog on an interesting topic. Get a free one here:
www.blogger.com . Guys are physical. Go kayacking, camping out,
hiking or bike riding; join a tennis league. Hang out at
Starbucks on Saturday
So theres your plan. Now approach it with enthusiasm and
determination and remember to include all these things in your
mix. Good luck!
About the author:
Susan Dunn, MA, Midlife Transitions Coach,
http://www.susandunn.cc . Susan is the author of Midlife Dating
Survival Manual for Women,
http://www.webstrategies.cc/ebooklibrary.html and offers
coaching for people in transition. Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for
free EQ ezine, with ezine for SL.
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